Introducing Sex Toys
Most experts agree that communication is the key to any great sexual relationship. But that is sometimes easier said than done. Sometimes one or both parties are too shy to talk about sex. Some men and women are intimidated by sex toys. Some feel that their partner’s desires to use these devices are caused by their own inadequacies in the bedroom. Often times we are afraid to bring up changes we would like to make in the bedroom because we don’t want to hurt the other person’s feelings.
It is inevitable in long term relationships that at some point one or both of you will feel dissatisfied with your sexual relationship. Sex is not happening as frequently as before, it is not as intense, it has become routine, or you find yourself scheduling time for sex, or you are so stressed out from everything else in life that you aren’t feeling quite up to par in the bedroom. This happens to the best of us. How you deal with it determines if you will sink or swim.
One of the most common questions I receive in my line of work is “How do I let him/her know I want to use these toys with them?”. I wasn’t surprised to learn that most women use vibrators only when they are alone. I think as a society there seems to be a stigma attached to masturbation that is more prevalent in women. But that is a whole new topic, so let’s get back to our original question. How do you introduce toys without offending or shocking your partner? As women I think it is easier for us to introduce the idea than men. I have been in more than one relationship where the topic has come up, sometimes by me, sometimes by the man.
Now with my husband it was pretty easy. He knew from the beginning that I was a fan of sex toys and had no problems and no reservations with it. When it came to actually introducing toys into our sex life, I chose the path of least resistance. He was going down on me when I reached down and placed a toy in his hand. This was a very effective approach. In the past I had tried various other approaches, one of which was a trip to the local sex shop and picking out a toy together. Browsing toys together online if you are too shy to go into a sex shop. Another time, I sent video footage of myself playing with a toy to my boyfriend at the time. (The latter I still do with my husband every now and then when he is at work.)
For men I believe it is a lot harder to broach the subject with women. They don’t want their partners to be offended, or put off by the idea. I wouldn’t suggest going out and buying a toy to use in the bedroom without consulting your partner first. The main reason for this is comfort. Toys come in various shapes and sizes and have many different functions. Some have clit stimulators, some are made of glass, some have pointed tips, some rotate, others heat up, and the list goes on and on. Another factor that needs to be considered is material. A lot of toys are made out of latex, and a lot of women are allergic to latex. So going in blind and trying to surprise your girl could lead to a catastrophe.
One of the best suggestions I have had when it comes to men introducing sex toys is to start small. Vibrating cock rings for example. There are millions of designs out there. These are not as intimidating as a full sized vibrator, it is something that you will use together and it is a great way to introduce the subject. If it is something that she enjoys, it makes approaching the subject of bigger toys much easier. Another suggestion is if she doesn’t feel comfortable going into a sex shop or if she doesn’t feel comfortable with you there; get her a gift card to an online store. Yes I will insert my shameful plug here. www.Alonetimepleasures.com does offer gift certificates email me for details. This way she can shop from the comfort of her home, in private and the items will be shipped to her. This idea is also much more effective when you want to buy lingerie (which we also sell). I know that I myself have been offended by some of the unflattering lingerie selections that I have received in the past. Unless you really know your partner’s size and style choices I would strongly suggest a gift card.
Introducing vibrators can open the door to many great sexual adventures. Once that line of communication is open it makes it much easier to introduce new ideas, from bondage to video cameras to anal play. The possibilities are endless, and the rewards are priceless.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
How do you introduce sex toys into your relationship??
Monday, March 2, 2009
When going green goes all WRONG!!!
Ok, I am all about helping to go green. but come on!! This is the grossest invention i think I have ever seen. It's called the MOONCUP.
What is it?
*****The Mooncup is a reusable menstrual cup around two inches long and made from soft silicone rubber. It is worn internally like a tampon but collects menstrual fluid rather than absorbing. Unlike tampons the Mooncup is not a disposable product, so you only need to buy one.
The Mooncup will hold 30ml of fluid, which is roughly one third of the average total produced each period. A light seal is formed with your vaginal walls allowing your menstrual fluid to pass into the Mooncup without leakage or odour. You will probably find that you need to empty your Mooncup less frequently than you currently replace towels or tampons.*****
See, I was online playing on the eBay UK web site trying to see what categories they have since I am looking into offering international products. So I stumble across the Mooncup...these things are selling like hotcakes!
I'm sorry but this has to be the stupidest invention I have seen, yes that includes the oral sex light (yes I sell the oral sex light). But OMG!! How green can you get?
How to Make a Woman Happy
How to Make a Woman Happy
It's not difficult to make a woman happy. A man only needs to be:
1. a friend
2. a companion
3. a lover
4. a brother
5. a father
6. a master
7. a chef
8 an electrician
9. a carpenter
10. a plumber
11. a mechanic
12. a decorator
13. a stylist
14. a sexologist
15. a gynecologist
16. a psychologist
17. a pest exterminator
18. a psychiatrist
19. a healer
20. a good listener
21. an organizer
22. a good father
23. very clean
24. sympathetic
25. athletic
26. warm
27. attentive
28. gallant
29. intelligent
30. funny
31. creative
32. tender
33. strong
34. understanding
35. tolerant
36. prudent
37. ambitious
38. capable
39. courageous
40. determined
41. true
42. dependable
43. passionate
44. compassionate
WITHOUT FORGETTING TO:
45. give her compliments regularly
46. love shopping
47. be honest
48. be very rich
49. not stress her out
50. not look at other girls
AND AT THE SAME TIME, YOU MUST ALSO:
51. give her lots of attention, but expect little yourself
52. give her lots of time, especially time for herself
53. give her lots of space, never worrying about where she goes
IT IS VERY IMPORTANT:
54. Never to forget:
* birthdays
* anniversaries
* arrangements she makes
HOW TO MAKE A MAN HAPPY
1. Show up naked
2. Bring food
3. Bring beer
And Remember: 
Saturday, February 28, 2009
Thursday, February 26, 2009
Product Review Time!
V-Flex Pelvic Exerciser - The Kegel is now Hi-Tech -
The V-Flex can teach any woman to be an expert at using her vaginal muscles. If you do care about your vaginal health, wish to improve your sex life or suffer from incontinence this product is for you.
-Improves vaginal strength and tone
-Helps female orgasmic dysfunction
-Makes the vagina more sensitive
-Increases muscle control and clitoris erection
-Increases number and intensity of orgasms
-Increases tightening of the vagina
-Conditioned muscles will make child birth easier
-Sexual enjoyment is enhanced for both partners
-Can prevent prolapses of pelvic organs
-Helps prevent leaking urine when you sneeze or cough
-Helps anorgasmia
-Helps women who suffer from incontinence
-Helps women strengthen the muscles surrounding the bladder
-Helps women with prolapse issues
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These are the claims. And seeing this is one of my top sellers I felt obligated to try it out and share my opinion. So here goes:
This thing reminded me of one of those grip testers they have in your local bar. It has sensors on it that measure your grip. It also lights up and beeps. The stronger your grip the more lights and the more it beeps. It's like a really bad game show in your bedroom. It doesn't vibrate, it doesn't bring you to climax, it is just there.
On my first try I managed to light up all of the lights and fill my room with the incessant beeping noise thus proving that I already know how to use my yoo hoo. I was not impressed with this obnoxious toy. There is a curled cord coming out of it, which attaches to the obnoxious box that lights up and beeps.
I will say for those who have recently had children or those who are unsure how to properly do their kegel exercises, this would be a good teaching tool. But for me, I just wasn't wowed by this product.
If they were to go back to the drawing board and start over I would make a few suggestions. One, I would suggest they ditch the cord and go for a cordless remote. I would also incorporate a vibration function that would make this toy fun to play with. I would also add a volume control because the beeping is annoying. I do like the light up display that shows your progress and if I could mute it I may be more inclined to use this product.
